Can He Say, "When She Lives?"

Not too long ago, I came across a snippet link Paul Cardall shared. Paul is an amazing pianist and composer with an even more amazing story. While he shares a lot about what he is doing, he also shares about others. He is a friendly “celebrity”. He responds to comments when time allows and most of the time, he likes them. That is one thing that has kept me supporting his social media pages.

The post I saw was about the song “When My Amy Prays” by Vince Gill. The few measures played made me go in search of the whole song. Oh, my word! When I heard the words of how a wife presented her husband with his first Bible, she has his back without judgment, and how the words when she prays brings God’s face to be seen, I just melted.

I want to be that kind of wife.

The one who has her husband’s back without judging him. Patient and not nagging while he is trying to decide on the decisions he needs to make in his life. To be the encouragement my husband needs, whether it is vocal or quietly felt.

Sadly, I’m not always that kind of wife. But it is something I’m working on.

I shared about how I pray for my husband a while back. I mentioned if I don’t pray for him, there is no one to do it. While my mom prays for each of our families. She doesn’t know what we are dealing with or what my husband is dealing with specifically. We don’t tell things about our marriage to others; only to God.

My husband has no one else who loves him as I do. That means there is no one else who can pray for him as I can. While I’m sure there are things in his life he keeps to himself, I can still pray for them even when I don’t know what they are.

The way I live in front of him, the words I speak, the body language I give, do they bring God’s face into view? I know the answer to that question.

When my husband sees me, I want him to see a supportive wife no matter what. One who will not judge him for the decisions he makes. (Matthew 7:1-5) A wife who will not nag about petty things. (Romans 12:10, Proverbs 27:15, Ephesians 5:21) One who will love him unconditionally. (John 15:12, I John 4:15-20)

For me to be that kind of wife, I have to have my heart in order.